'Looking': On Bottom Shame
Scrolling down, I find similar profiles within a one-mile radius of my apartment in Boston. I can filter them by body type, sexual position top, bottom, or versatileand HIV status. The Supreme Court ruled that same-sex marriage is a constitutional right. Today in Boston, two men can walk down the street holding hands without consequence. I created a profile identifying myself as a medical writer looking to talk to men about their experiences.
He touched me. I touched him. We were trembling. Getting better at bottoming required me to see through altogether that, and trust my experience.
Devoid of easy access to gay role models or sex education specifically geared toward them, a lot of gay men never learn good skills for bottoming. Even those who feel they appreciate how to bottom may never appear to enjoy it, given the disgrace surrounding gay sex. It should appear as no surprise, then, that a lot of of my clients have described angst when it comes to bottoming. A few worry that they will have a physically painful experience, while others allow shut themselves off to bottoming all over again after a negative first experience.
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