When Your Friends Let You Down
What is it about female friendships that can send us right back to junior high? Most of the time I tend to think that at 37 years old, I am well past all that girl drama. Those are the ones I trust completely, the ones I can pour my heart out to, the ones who I know will be there for me no matter what, and the ones who are immune to all the jealousy and pettiness and cattiness that so often crops up between us women. Best of all, it's completely FREE. Not so long ago I found myself in this exact situation. One of my very closest friends was suddenly not so close anymore, and I had no idea why. She laughed it off and assured me that it was nothing, but still, the uneasiness lingered. The uneasiness remained and instead, this friend, the one I had trusted and leaned on, admired and looked up to, stayed up until all hours talking to, the one I would do anything for, was quite clearly no longer interested in my friendship. And then, at the moment I needed her most, she completely let me down.
Around has been a constant argument a propos whether or not men and women can really be friends. There allow been many instances where married men become friends with women, regardless of their status. Just as long at the same time as they are in a platonic affiliation, there seem to have no complications or problems that arise. Friendships should be available for any two individuals, man or woman. However, certain circumstances are required for these friendships en route for begin, often when the situation gets complicated.
No one of that makes us toxic. It makes us human. We mess things up, we grow and we ascertain. Toxic people are different. They by no means learn.